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Self Esteem

“Why Can’t I Ever Get What I Want?’ Revisiting the Importance of Self Acceptance

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Wed, 2010-03-31 23:59

I have been getting a fair amount of questions lately that concern the issue of self worth. Actually, the main questions I’ve been getting are such things as: Why can’t I get what I want?  Why do I only get parts of what I want?  For many, the source issue is a lack of perfect self acceptance, and that is why I think of these as self worth problems.

It Takes Two Healthy Joyful Whole People to Make One Healthy Joyful Whole Relationship

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Sat, 2009-05-30 18:37
There is an American myth that two halves can come together in a loving relationship and become whole. However, contrary to cultural myths, close intimate relationships are not additive, where one half plus one half equals one. Close relationships are actually multiplicative. It is the whole Jerry McQuire myth problem: “You Complete Me!” This is all utter nonsense.

An Exercise for Exploring Your Self at Deeper Levels

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Sat, 2009-05-30 18:22
Margaret,

I was just reading your blog about self-awareness and communication. Are there some more specific "homework" type things I can do? I need a lot of work. I have been in counseling for awhile and feel stuck. I am hoping to come get a couples reading sometime! I love reading your posts. You have an excellent way of explaining things! Thanks for your info!

Carla

Reader’s Question: Why Am I Thinking of My Ex?

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Fri, 2009-05-29 17:18
Margaret Ruth,thought I am 25. I just got out of a long 2 1/2 year relationship and before that I was married for 3 1/2 yrs. I got a divorce that was final in June of 2006. And my late relationship ended in the end of March of this year. But my problem is I am thinking and having feelings pop up for my ex-husband. I mean maybe I just miss his friendship; we were friends since we were 12.

How Can I Trust Myself in Dating Ever Again?

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Mon, 2009-04-20 16:50
gup024Dear Ms. Ruth. Sorry I am not one for formalities; but the heading just sounded right! LOL. I am actually wondering if/when I will be able to actually “see” the guys I’m interested in for who they are?

I dated a guy for three years when I found out that He was a porn addicted transvestite.

"How Can I Trust Myself Again After Dating a Porn Addict for Three Years?"

Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Sat, 2009-03-21 11:49
Margaret Ruth answers this question for a reader. Dear Ms. Ruth. Sorry I am not one for formalities; but the heading just sounded right! LOL. I am actually wondering if/when I will be able to actually "see" the guys I'm interested in for who they are?

I dated a guy for three years when I found out that He was a porn addicted transvestite. As you could imagine...my trust issues; not to mention my self esteem, had been tossed in the trash!

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