Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Thu, 2009-09-17 19:36
Psychic Margaret Ruth answered a reader's question about how to finally experience really great, long lasting relationships.
Margaret: First of all thanks for the great advice! I like reading your blog and your postings here a lot! So I had a question about friendship. I see people with lifelong friends and friends that have been around forever, but I have never experienced that. So I'm wondering: how I can make my relationships with friends more permanent? Thanks - C.C. Salt Lake City, UT
Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Wed, 2009-09-16 23:55
Dearest Margaret, My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago because he is moving back to his country, Argentina. I feel that I love him and therefore I need to let him go do what he needs to do in his life.My problem is that there are times when I feel I need him and miss him so much that I lose this balance of surrender; sometimes I am overwhelmed with my emotions and miss him terribly and this causes an ache and sadness in my life. My question is how do I deal with the sadness of his absence in my life?
Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Fri, 2009-05-29 16:21
Hi Margaret Ruth,I feel really confused. I just recently broke up with a long term boyfriend (one that I knew would not be one I was going to keep). Two weekends ago though I was out and I looked over at the bartender and realized I knew him from years ago. We used to work together. So I went over and asked if it was him. Jerik grabbed my hand, held it the whole time, and we talked and caught up for a while. There was instant chemistry and my heart had a tug I haven't felt for a long time.
Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Wed, 2009-04-22 21:18
By Margaret Ruth
This week, I met with a wonderful young man who wanted to talk about falling in love one day. It was a tough subject for him. He was brought up in very typical circumstances and had therefore developed a belief that relationships are difficult, imperfect, full of compromises and require a bit of work to maintain. His past experiences had verified these beliefs and he was very good at criticizing himself over what appeared to be mistakes.
"Hi Margaret! I came to see you after I was laid off in April. I knew that I was facing the perfect opportunity to really focus my energy where my passions are but was scared to let myself do it. You, of course, knew this before I did! You asked me "What are you so afraid of?" the question cut to my core. I almost started crying. I don't know what I was so afraid of but it was true that I was afraid and my fear was holding me back.
Then you asked about the area that I really didn't want to talk about, my relationship. My partner and I had been going through rough times for several years and I couldn't see any blue skies. I was about to leave him, if he didn't leave me first. We were both miserable and taking it out on each other. You turned over the cards and looked me and said "You're mothering an adult." I couldn't do anything but nod, because again you hit the nail right on the head and was holding back tears. You told me about the 50/50 rule (I think that's what you called it). That his problems were his and mine were mine and the little song you taught me (his, his, his, mine, mine, mine) has helped me through many distressing times since!
My partner and I still argue sometimes but I have definitely been able to back of and let him take care of his own problems. The amazing transformation that has happened has saved our relationship! I now respect him as an adult and he has been able to step up and take control of his half of our lives and company! Our business has been flourishing and we have a few very exciting project underway including on that is much bigger than could have hoped this soon! Thanks again! Your wisdom is invaluable! “ –A.Y.
“Hi Margaret! I received a free reading from you at the radio station right after I had broken up with a long term relationship. Anyway, you told me if I looked at myself as a house that I would be a fixer upper and that I needed to work on renovating myself and becoming a prime piece of real estate before I could attract the right kind of guy. That so far I had only attracted guys who wanted to fix me. You also mentioned the hostile relationship I had just ended and that it was hard on my self-esteem. Well, you were absolutely right. I spent the next six months working on myself and the next thing I knew, I met the most awesome guy who told me after we had been seeing each other a while that one of the things he found the most attractive about me was my self confidence! Well, we are now engaged and I'd just like to thank you for your wonderful advice and for the great free psychic reading. You are the best!!” -L.G.
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