Healthy Relationship

  "Hi Margaret! I came to see you after I was laid off in April. I knew that I was facing the perfect opportunity to really focus my energy where my passions are but was scared to let myself do it. You, of course, knew this before I did! You asked me "What are you so afraid of?" the question cut to my core. I almost started crying. I don't know what I was so afraid of but it was true that I was afraid and my fear was holding me back.    Then you asked about the area that I really didn't want to talk about, my relationship. My partner and I had been going through rough times for several years and I couldn't see any blue skies. I was about to leave him, if he didn't leave me first. We were both miserable and taking it out on each other. You turned over the cards and looked me and said "You're mothering an adult." I couldn't do anything but nod, because again you hit the nail right on the head and was holding back tears. You told me about the 50/50 rule (I think that's what you called it). That his problems were his and mine were mine and the little song you taught me (his, his, his, mine, mine, mine) has helped me through many distressing times since!    My partner and I still argue sometimes but I have definitely been able to back of and let him take care of his own problems. The amazing transformation that has happened has saved our relationship! I now respect him as an adult and he has been able to step up and take control of his half of our lives and company! Our business has been flourishing and we have a few very exciting project underway including on that is much bigger than could have hoped this soon! Thanks again! Your wisdom is invaluable! “ –A.Y.