What happens in the afterlife?

If I could only pick one thing to convey about what happens after death is that the after life experience is utterly and completely unique to the individual. There is no one common thing that all spirits do or common place they go once the body is done.

There is a continuum of possibilities available. Some individuals cling so hard to physical life that they become what we call ghosts. At the opposite end of the continuum is releasing all connection to the physical life you just lived; when spirits do this they are not discernible other than as a very high vibration that feels to me like white light. Most start somewhere in-between.

And the death experience is different for everyone, according to those who have near-death experiences. Many report seeing a white light and/or loved ones there to greet them. However, and this is the key point, not everyone had this. It turns out that what one experiences is dependent upon your culture and your expectations. So, if you and I expect to see a white light, then doggone, that's what we'll see.

I used to do more with people who had died and were still available to family and friends. I found that there was a range of density in how hard they hold to the old persona. One woman’s father was as easy to read as if he was in the room. Another man’s mother was hardly discernible to me – more of a whisper, a gentle breeze. When you see the really famous mediums do live shows, there is a good reason that they tell the audience who they are finding as opposed to having the audience pick who to locate. It is because not everyone who has died hangs about and, if they do, some are more tangible than others.

I have noticed though that when I am picking up on my client’s guides (I call them your committee), that often there is a relative in the group. Sometimes more than one.  However, this isn't always the case. Sometimes our parents or grandparents or others stay around to help or be a part of our lives. You could think of this as choosing to be a guardian angel . But again, it is up to the individual spirit to decide to do this or not.

When I was 14, I silently asked my grandmother Ruth to watch over me after she died. So, she did. Of course, I did not have to ask as she has made quite a point, after dying too young, to watch over all of her children, and grandchildren too. I was surprised last year to notice that my grandfather had joined her; he died a few years ago. He really never had anything to do with bonding with grandchildren and the like, so it was unexpected to see that. But, as I say, it was up to him to choose some semblance of hanging about or not. I guess I just thought he would not choose. My other grandparents are not around anyone at all and never have been.