Secret Girl Advice for Logan

Hello Margaret Ruth, might I be allowed a brief bit of girl advice? There's this girl at school who I think likes me, but as far as I know, she's way out of my league attractiveness wise, but she seems awfully flirty with me. What should I do? It just seems a bit too good to be true, any secret girl tricks here? - Logan

Hi Logan,

No matter what is going on with her, developing confidence is the key to making this a good experience. I would continue the flirting and maybe ramp it up little by little --nothing sudden -- as you can increase your assurance by moving slowly.  Try to just get to the point where maybe you are talking or laughing a lot together. Maybe she'll make it more obvious then.  Till then you can practice being a more self-assured Logan.

Big smiles are good with women. And men who can make us laugh are wonderful. But, the favorite body part on men, as far as most healthy women are concerned, is the backbone -- neither the rigid, stuck, closed-in kind of one, nor the easily broken or bent type. The best one is the flexible, expansive and strong kind that indicates that someone has a healthy dose of self-assurance and trust in his self and trust in how his life is unfolding. Those people are neither doormats nor domineering, and yet are strong enough to hold their half of a relationship up in a positive, potent way.

Those of some of my girl secrets, although I am of course talking about really healthy, whole women and what they like.  Is that the kind you want to get involved with? If so, believe what I say. If you want to get involved with more insecure, fearful or shallow types, I would have to give you different advice. And that advice would be: don’t do that.

I know it would be more fun if I psychically read this woman for you, but I am not interested in her. I am interested in you and you being able to enjoy this interaction and the others to come in your life. So, never forget to value yourself, trust yourself and think well of yourself first. Don't let what she thinks of you be a determinant towards what you think of you.  Nothing is more attractive than a healthy, joyful, whole person. Be that and you are set, no matter what the occasional woman thinks. You cannot go wrong.

Does that help get you started?

Update Logan’s Response: Very much, thanks Margaret, you are very good and helpful...even over Facebook :)