Submitted by Margaret Ruth on Sat, 2009-03-21 12:10
Margaret Ruth answers a reader's question.
Can one be a happy healthy person even if that person loves to smoke marijuana? Let's say this person feels very happy and healthy, is a productive member of society, doesn't hurt anyone in the process, and is uber responsible and smart about said use? I know that is (probably) a very funny question for you. But I really want to know what you think. Thanks in advance!
Yikes – what an interesting question. I personally do not advise smoking marijuana. For one thing, it isn’t legal. So, there’s that good reason to avoid it. Also, I’ve met too many people my age (I am 51) that did “too much” in their youth and I swear they are missing “too many” brain cells at this later stage in life. Brains like mush. That is just my experience though, and not a medical opinion!
But, what is “too much” of anything? That seems to be the question here. The only way I can compare it is to think of alcohol. We know that alcohol is not good for us but it is prevalent throughout our culture – excepting my own dear Utah culture, but we all know about that. Some people can drink and not have it affect their life at all. Some people’s drinking affects them negatively in some part of their life. That is when it becomes a problem I believe.
I’m pretty sure that medical experts feel that pot is not good for us. However, when thinking about it along the lines of alcohol, I suspect the determination has to be made as to whether it affects this person you write about negatively or not.
Perhaps, and I am not a medical or psychological expert, you might want to test to see if there is an addictive element to it. There are many good resources for finding out about addiction. So, let me just put the metaphysical twist to it here. Addictions, if you determine there is this element to it, are a sign that all is not well in our inner landscape. There are still some negative beliefs about the self or some blocks, like self-destructive streaks, that exist.
In summary, I, as an individual, don't want that person to do pot because I don’t want anyone to mush up the brain and do something illegal. However, that said, if the person is addiction-free, it is easy to think that he or she could easily be happy and healthy.
What do you think?
“Dear MR~I was in to see you last week. IT was so enlightening. You told me things that I could DO, not just identify a problem, and that is more than most therapists can do!” -J.V.
“I called in to the radio to get a reading in February. You said that I was going to meet a future mate by the end of the year. When I met this guy it would instantly work between us and that you saw me changing jobs and that we would be living in a house together after the holidays. I pretty much thought you were full of crap. I had left an abusive relationship, was raising my 2 kids by myself and didn't trust men as far as I could throw them (and I have a bad back)! On top of that I worked for the State; you would have to be an idiot to quit a job like that!! You insisted that this is what you saw and that I'd better promise to invite you to the wedding.
The next week I went to the station to get a face to face reading and prove that you were wrong. You gave me the exact reading!! Actually you elaborated a little more on the description of the mystery guy. You just kept saying over and over that he would be the biggest guy I'd ever met and definitely the nicest and we would meet through friends at a party or celebration of some kind.
Fast Forward 6 Months: LET THE WEIRDNESS BEGIN! I was offered a job that paid me more money that the government so I figured it was at least a bit of an improvement. Wait..didn't that psychic say something about me changing jobs? Through friends from that job, I met a man at a get-together. I knew I was in love with him three days later. We, to this day, have never been apart for 24 hours since we met. We are happily living in a big house in the burbs with OUR 2 kids and oh, yeah did I mention that he is the NICEST, sweetest, funniest, most intelligent man that I've ever met, and that he's SIX FOOT SIX which definitively takes it for biggest man I'd ever met!!
I'd say you pretty much nailed the whole thing right on down the line. So, that's my story and I'm sticking with it. Thanks for opening my eyes to the possibility of things. I don't think that I would have been as open to anything that was in my reading if I had not heard them from you first.” -M.H.